The Arab population around Israel is not going to go away. The question is how will Israel and its neighbors learn to get along? Borders, walls, fences, skirmishes are not the answer. Diplomacy barely keeps some degree of peace, minimizing all out war but even in the face of aggressive diplomatic maneuvers attacks and counter attacks continue. And, when all is said and done, there remains severe hatred on both sides.
It seems to me that the hatred is greater on the Arab side. Propaganda, misinformation and venom are on display for all to see. On television, the streets, the web. But there is equal hatred on the Israeli side, particularly among the political right wingers and the more Orthodox among the religious. Both groups show little interest in modifying their hatred. In fact, they seem to get a life out of it all. And in my opinion here lies the problem.
If diplomacy is successful in settling some border issues and hands are shaken, nothing will have been done to stanch this river of hatred. As long as both sides vilify each other, tension will simmer. Where in history can we turn for a guide? Where have two diametrically opposed groups worked out their differences and learned to co-exist?
In America after the Civil War, slavery was abolished but over 100 years later much animosity between whites and blacks exist. China and Japan don't get along. Myriad tribes in Africa butcher each other over minor ethnic differences. Europe? The former Soviet Empire? Ireland and Britain? Is there anyone anywhere who gets along? Is the best we can hope for is a border to separate us?
Maybe. Before the last intifada Jews and Palestinians were starting to get along. Folks were crossing borders to work, to shop and to gamble. Children were going to Maine summer camps, Seeds of Peace, Jews and Palestinians, and realizing they could get along. It all ended with Arafat's refusal to sign. Is it irreparable?
We can build bigger walls. Make smarter Iron Domes. The Palestinians can create more propaganda, smuggle in more missiles, live in the misguided hope that Israel will disappear and all will be theirs. Common sense says this approach will fail. Where to change direction? Its not going to be some ceremonial handshake. Its going to take people coming out from behind their xenophobia, their hate and their fears and begin working towards the common goal of peace and good neighbors. How to start?